AVAILABLE FALL 2018
This is the only book you need to help your daughter will peer pressure and popularity contests. As early as age five, your daughter will be thrown into the world of peer pressure, popularity and bullying often at a time when she seems particularly naïve and vulnerable. She will make friends one day and lose them the next. She will be included today and rejected tomorrow. She will be happy one day and depressed the next, often as a result of her friendships and social activities.
Most parents think that all these ups and downs are due to mean girls, cliques and bullies. They watch in dismay as their daughters get tossed about, slump and camouflage. Many feel powerless as their daughters suffer anxiety or sink into depression or self-harm. Others think it is just a “tween-girl thing” and keep their fingers crossed hoping our daughters will survive these difficult years without too much permanent damage. We think they will get over it but they don’t. Girls continue to struggle well into their adult years.
So, what’s really going on? Most of us think that girls are to blame. We point to relational aggression and jealousy and think that girls are just naturally aggressive, nasty and catty and that we simply need to control this bad behavior.
In this book Fitzgerald shines a light on what is really happening in your daughters social world. She shows us that mean girls aren’t mean and cliques are not dangerous. As she says, girls are cruel to other girls not because they are genetically nasty or insensitive. Girls act out because we as a society place such impossible expectations on them and limit their expression and freedoms so severely that they do what any normal person would do: they use the tools they have at their disposal. This book guarantees to change the way you see the world of girls as well as practical solutions to help you and your daughter.
This 150 page parenting book turns the myth of “mean girls” on its head. In doing so it provides fresh and lasting solutions – and skills- for the many girls who struggle with peer pressure, popularity contests, bulling and other social and relationship problems.
Unlike other books that categorize and blame girls (like “Queen Bees and Wanna Bees” by Rosalind Wiseman, 2003) or focus on the psychological and physical development of girls, this book shifts the focus away from girls to the deeper hidden causes of girls’ behavior.
Backed up by the latest research, Dr. Fitzgerald a gender expert, mother and former lawyer explains how girls are born mean but are simply acting out of a need for control and agency. She unpacks the label of “relational aggression,” girl-bullies and jealousy and shows how reinforcing these ideas causes girls even more harm.
Unlike other parenting books that tend to be lengthy, academic and problem-focused this book is short, practical and solution-focused. This book consists of 30 chapters addressing 30 aspects of girl’s social lives and provides real-life examples and practical solutions. It is guaranteed to change the way parents see the world of girls.
Topics include: Why friendships and cliques are so important to girls; how to help her make and keep good friends; why girls use social control and relationships as weapons; how to deal with bullying and peer pressure and why girls camouflage and shrink themselves. Unlike other books that tend to be academic, and problem-focused this book is practical and completely solution-focused.