I read a great book: Cliques by C Giannetti and M Sagareses (Broadway Books, 2001). It describes four groups of kids: Popular (35%), wannabees (10%), smaller mixed groups (45%) and loners (10%). If you tell your child about these categories, they can then describe where they fit and you can help them better survive. The popular group tend to be most anxious (trying to fit in) while the mixed groups tend to feel most free to be themselves. The book teaches parents how to develop “friendship” skills and how to belong. It also suggests ways to help your child better manage his or her emotions. I am definitely including these bits in my new book. Very helpful advice!